A Writing Therapy Experiment: Volume One

Hmmmm??? What to write . . . what to write??? It took me waaaayyyy too long to organize my thoughts enough to bring something before you today. I mean . . . something well thought out and on topic. Sometimes, we have days like that. Days where we just need to talk (or communicate through written words) to get something off our chests to make us feel better about whatever.

Today’s that day for me. No AI discussions. No literacy discussions. No challenges. Just human being talk. 

I’m typing this out with nothing planned for this blog post but to kindly vent — journaling-style. So, you’re getting some free flow, “right off the dome” talk today. And, you can probably tell that’s what it is by all my broken and incomplete sentences. (Not that all my other blog posts are perfect by any means. After all, I am very much human.)

So, forgive me in advance, please. I’ll proofread and edit this writing therapy experiment of mine, of course. But, the only things I’ll probably tidy up are spelling, some punctuation here and there, and some paragraph reorganization. Oh, and I might think of some better word choices after rereading things a couple of times. But, other than that, you’re getting authentic thoughts from my head typed straight to this blog post. I’m keepin’ it real, folks.

I have so many odd tasks to get done today, and it’s going to add up to a full day’s work. That’s okay though, because every one of the tasks waiting on me is a meaningful, purposeful, important task that is building relationships and changing lives.

Relationships.

I’m going to be honest. Relationship building can be exhausting and really, really hard. It can take a lot out of you, but it’s necessary. And, it’s a privilege to engage in. As a creation created by The Creator, I can clearly see that we weren’t meant to be isolated — off to ourselves somewhere — where it’s me, myself, and I and no one else.

That to me would seem even more exhausting than the energy, effort, and wherewithal we put into human relationships. Because, we weren’t meant to exclude people out of our lives. It does something to the mind, you know. Breaking down, breaking up, and dissolving relationships. Refusing to let people enter your life. Cutting them out. Refusing to develop the relationships you have. It would seem to me to be very exhausting to do that.

But, I also know how much relationships can take out of a person, too. Just think of some of the most difficult, painful, hurtful, disappointing, disruptive, embarrassing, regretful (I could go on and on) situations you’ve faced. I’m guessing there were probably some messy relationships involved somewhere in all of that.

Wow. I’m just noticing that I say “but” A LOT (at the beginning of sentences) when I’m authentically writing. Not changing it, though. Not changing it. Keeping all the “but’s” in here this time. Hee. Hee.

Even so, I would take the messy relationship over the non-relationship, because human beings are wired to desire companionship, belonging, and human connection. I mean . . . the World Wide Web doesn’t have the monopoly on connection, you know. It got it from us, human beings, first. Literally, some human being had to create the Internet to technologically connect people as we know tech-connect to be today.

We have messy relationships because we’re messy human beings. But, we have to keep the “human being” factor intact. We can’t let tech (or anything for that matter) cause us to dampen the light on how very vital to our existence relationships are.

We rely on each other for our existence each and every day. Just think about it for a moment and start counting the ways. I guarantee your list will be long. We NEED each other. And, it’s important to make sure that those relationships we currently have going (the healthy ones, for sure) are nourished and cultivated. We need them to grow and grow STRONG. We really do.

Look at this messy world in which we live. You know why it’s messy, don’t you? And, you know what I’m going to say, right? Well, maybe you don’t, so I’d better say it.

Here it goes . . . 

The world is messy because human beings are messy. But!

Let’s work with what we’ve got. Let’s not close each other off. Rule each other out. Cast each other down. Let’s repair relationships that are salvageable. Mend ’em. Let’s cultivate the ones that need a little TLC. A little babying can go a long way. We can do it. We can. Because at the end of the day, we need other human beings to live, to thrive, and even to be messy with.

And, if by some chance there are those human connections that are on the fritz. Well then . . .

It’s okay to identify them. They may be damaged beyond repair, and maybe (just maybe) those are best to let go of so healthy and less messy relationships can take root and grow. I would just caution you to make sure any relationship cut off is at a point where there’s nothing positive that can possibly be squeezed out of it before dissolving it for good. Because, there have been miraculous relationship comebacks that have happened in human existence a time or two.

Hey, relationship miracles do happen. I’ve seen them in my own life. So, I can confidently say — don’t hastily rule out the comeback.

Now, I must admit that this little (actually bigger or longer than I thought it would be) writing therapy experiment of mine has served its purpose for me, anyway. Purpose being: I needed a little therapeutic writing for today. Usually, when I can’t structure my thoughts for a blog post, it’s because I need to pour out from the heart from what’s ruminating in the mind.

And now, I actually feel a lot better and more on point to get my day of relationship tasks on the way. By the way, writing this blog post is one of those noteworthy relationship tasks. After all, relationship building — that’s why I’m here.

What a privilege to share with you each time I come to my home here at Degrees of Maternity. Sharing is caring. And, sharing (communication) and caring are components of a healthy relationship. But, YOU have a part to play, too. Please don’t forget to drop me a line or two sometime or every time, because it’s a two-way connection, you know. I can’t have this relationship here without you.

More writing therapy experimenting to come!