Let Your Positives Outweigh the Negatives: A Writing Therapy Exercise

I know it’s going to be good stuff when it comes from some meditation time in the shower. I just know it! I get some of my best epiphanies during those peaceful moments when my brain can unlock and think a bit — on an uninterrupted level.

And so, today’s blog post is definitely taking its lead from the thought processing that organically comes to mind when I’m most relaxed, not trying to think deeply about anything in particular, but just letting me be.

And here’s what I came up with a couple of days ago . . . in the shower!

The negatives of life can be so incredibly loud in our world.  Almost to the point that the positives, consequently, play backseat to them EVERY TIME.

Those negatives tend to be the culprits responsible for getting our undivided attention, preoccupying our every waking hour, taking over our schedules and daily routines, depleting our energy reserves, and forcing us to bend to their will with reactionary effort.

So, it’s like — how do you downplay those negatives to begin to see the bright side, the light at the end of the tunnel, and the half glass full in the whole scheme of things?

In other words, how can the positives even begin to rise and take preeminence in our lives, when the negatives are SO boisterous?

Well, it’s like this. Let’s start with the obvious positive of life that trumps all positives.

LIFE!

Let’s put “LIFE” at the top of our positives lists, when doing our writing therapy exercise. Shall we? I mean . . . the gift of life can’t possibly be overlooked. Or, can it?

Virtually, everything ends for the creation that’s lost life. When there’s no life, there are no ways to right the wrongs, or opportunities to do do-overs, or chances to see life improvements by making the appropriate little tweaks to set self on a better path of possibilities.

The “gift” of life holds a lot of weight. And, I’ll say gift several more times before this blog post is over, because life is a gift. Not necessarily promised to extend for any particular set time. So, each day we get is essentially a gift. And, not one to be taken for granted.

We get a CHANCE to do something in that day we’re given to try to right the wrongs, or try again, or make improvements by doing the little things that can mean the most in setting us on the right course.

And please, don’t underestimate the power of your positives. The gift of life is the catalyst that ignites all the other positives. So again, put it at the top of your positives list.

And let’s say that, once you start working on your negatives list and notice that the negatives far surpass the positives, DO NOT underestimate the power of your positives because you still have LIFE at the top of your list.

Get what I’m saying?

Here, let’s put things into REAL perspective. Even if your life is hard and riddled with problems and pain and NEGATIVES, you’re STILL here. The gift of life. So, that means you have extreme purpose to fulfill. You STILL have time to do something about the hardships, the problems, the pain — the NEGATIVES.

Right?

If you can’t tell already, just know that I’m about finding the silver lining, if at all possible. And, I know that, in a lot of individuals’ worlds, there doesn’t seem to be one. But, there’s always a silver lining if you look hard enough for one. Always.

LIFE. The gift of life. Even a hard life.

So for me, the best way to live life is to dwell in as many of the positives as I can muster up. And don’t get me wrong. The negatives are so unrelenting and needy and selfish and they can eat up my time if I choose to let them — day in and day out.

But, I choose not to live like that. Not me — no sir, no ma’am. I only have a certain number of hours in a day and I don’t want them all sucked up in misery. Can’t get anything accomplished in life living like that.

I have to live in the positives and be grateful for them all the way. I hold on to them for dear life . . . with as tight a grip as I can manage. And, I don’t let go. Because that’s where my peace and serenity is, that’s where my hope is, that’s where my joy is, that’s where my love can generate from (for myself and others).

So, I admonish you to make your lists of the positives and negatives of your life. Put them down on paper — in writing.

And don’t get messed up when you see your negatives list is much longer than your positives. Because you have “the gift of life” as #1 on your positives list. Furthermore, you haven’t given your positives list enough deep contemplation yet. Think a little while . . . there’s some more to add to it.

Those negatives. Well, they may be numerous; but they are yours for the taking AND for the doing something about.

I would venture to suggest that you have more say over the shrinking of that negatives list of yours than you’re giving yourself credit for right about now.

Yes, there are some things out of your control; but there are other things that you can take and do something positive with.

That’s it!

Let’s take the negatives in our lives and do something positive with them. 

That’s the ONLY way to shrink those negatives lists of ours, don’t you think?

Oh, and on a somewhat similar note (“somewhat similar” because writing therapy is involved here, too): I just wanted to let you know that The Right to Healthy Communication Membership is open for enrollment through June 29th.

You can check out information about the membership by clicking on the following blog post:

Countdown to the Membership!

And enroll into the membership by clicking on the link (directly below):

Membership Enrollment Here! 

Feel free to contact me with any questions you may have about the membership. And remember, POSITIVES over NEGATIVES. Whoo hoo!